Category Archives: Personal Growth

Simple Steps to Get Back to Reading Your Bible Each Day

picture of a girl reading her bible

Have you ever found yourself getting away from reading your Bible and praying each day? We all know we’re supposed to do it every day. But then one day slips away from us, then two, then three. Soon, we find ourselves going way too long without a routine that involves Bible reading and prayer each day.

What do you do when that happens? Have you ever found yourself there? It’s paralyzing. You don’t even know where to start or what to read anymore. How do you get it going again?

Sometimes you just need to push reset and start fresh. You have to just decide that today is the day, and just do it. So here are my best tips for starting fresh.

My goal is not to overwhelm you in this post but to help you get back on track or start. Here’s just a few ideas to give you a jump start.

What Do You Need?

  1. Light a candle that you love. If you don’t have one, this is an excuse to go get one! It doesn’t have to be expensive. Aldi and Walmart both offer cheap, delicious-smelling candles.
  2. Make a good cup of coffee.
  3. Grab a journal. If you need a good journal, check out our Faithfully Stepping Journals. They were created specifically for morning time, using the system that Matt and I use every single morning. But for now, use whatever you have.
  4. Grab your Bible.
  5. Find a comfortable place to sit; grab a blanket if you need to and a pen.

What Do You Read?

  1. If you need encouragement, read the Psalms. A chapter or two a day is great.
  2. When you feel overwhelmed with trials and hardships, read I and II Peter.
  3. If you’re at a place in life that you need wisdom, read a Proverb each day.
  4. The Gospels are great if you want to just get more of Jesus.
  5. If you prefer to use a devotional along with your Bible reading, check out our Devotionals.
  6. If you want to use your phone, use YouVersion and pick a plan to follow.

That’s it. Simply grab what you need and choose what to read and simply start! Start today; start fresh tomorrow morning. The important thing is simply that you start! I’m super passionate about this topic, because I know I would not be where I am today without my morning time routine. It has kept me grounded over the years at a time in my life when nothing else could!

More on This Topic

This post is just to get you started. If you’re looking to take it deeper, check out my free Morning Time Routine Course. We also teach a system called Thirty-to-THRIVE, that you can check out HERE.

How Nature Helps Me Combat Discouragement

One of the things I have found over the years that helps me combat discouragement is getting outside in nature. Because we homeschool, one of the things we try to do is to take nature walks. The kids look for as many things as they can find while we’re out and then write it down in their notebooks. Sometimes we draw or paint, sometimes we listen to a podcast about nature, sometimes we read a book, and sometimes we simply just write down everything we saw.

Our Walk Yesterday

white flowers on our nature walk
some of the flowers from our nature walk

Yesterday, we took a nature walk. We were so happy just to be outside. The sun was out, and it was finally warm after a long, dreary winter. One of the first things we saw was a furry and rather large ground hog wiggling his way across the grass. After that, the kids were off. We saw tadpoles, bees, fish, flowers, a spider, ducks, water, and more. We took pictures of some of the things we saw. I love flowers, especially bright spring ones. So we took pictures of those.

pink flowers from our nature walk

By the time we were finished, everybody was worn out and hungry, but refreshed and heartened after being out in nature.

When I find myself getting depressed or discouraged, sometimes a simple walk outside can make all the difference in the world. I’m not saying go crazy and pack a backpack and hike a mountain. I’m simply talking about grabbing a water bottle and a granola bar and a phone for pictures. Pick a place that has some beauty to enjoy and just get outside for a little while.

Here are a few ideas for getting out in nature.

10 Ideas for Getting Out into Nature

  1. Pack a lunch and eat by a creek or pond or lake.
  2. Go for a nature walk and write down or take pictures of as many “nature-y” things as you can see.
  3. Go for a walk and listen to good music or preaching.
  4. Listen to a nature podcast as you walk. We love the No Sweat Nature Study Podcast with Miss Cindy. She’s the best; my kids love her podcast.
  5. Sign up for a nature study or hike with your local library or a local park.
  6. Explore a new trail.
  7. Take a picnic lunch and eat in a field with nature all around you.
  8. Plan a visit to a garden or an arboretum. We score free passes for these things from our library.
  9. Find something beautiful on your walk or at a park and sketch it or paint it.
  10. Find a beautiful setting and write—journal your thoughts, write some poetry, write down a prayer to God.

There are so many ways to enjoy nature that don’t have to be crazy or a lot of work. It just takes a few minutes of planning.

The next time you are feeling discouraged, try one of the ideas above and see if that helps to encourage your heart!

More Encouragement

For more on this topic, check out my post, 10 Things You Can do to Combat Burnout.

Easter Can be a Time for Healing

New Beginnings

Easter is our reminder of hope and new beginnings. It comes at such the perfect time of year for me. Where we live, Easter comes when Spring has just started to descend. The sun has just started to come out again. New buds begin to form on trees and early plants begin to shoot up. It feels fresh and alive and so good after a long, dreary winter.

Jesus’ resurrection had to have felt the same way all those years ago. The disciples and Jesus’ followers had been through so much before Jesus even died. Then their beloved leader dies a gruesome death. They feel such sorrow and loss of hope. Those three days were the longest days they’d ever experienced.

So imagine their surprise and even disbelief when they hear Jesus is no longer in the tomb. John and Peter run to the tomb and find it empty. Then Jesus begins appearing to some and then all of them. It was amazing and exciting all at the same time.

Fresh Hope

Easter is our reminder that fresh hope is still available. Maybe you’ve been in a season of grief or sickness. Maybe financial stress has crippled you, or maybe somebody has done something to cause you incredible grief.

This weekend is a chance to celebrate new life, new beginnings and to let the past go. I don’t know if you need this, but I do. Sometimes, I just need to be able to set the reset button. I need to be able to let go of some things and put some things behind me. I am giving myself permission to do that this Easter, and I’m giving you permission to do the same.

A Sunday of Healing

When you celebrate Easter this Sunday, let your heart open up and really feel God’s love, mercy, forgiveness, and renewal. When you sing the worship songs, release the frustrations and worry and fear. When you hear the message, open your heart to God’s message of new life and new beginnings. When you fellowship, love on other people and feel their love in return as the body of Christ is meant to be. Let this Easter Sunday minister to your heart and heal you; then let it propel you towards what God has for you.

More Encouragement

For more encouragement, check out Matt’s book, 6 Days to Sunday: Turn Setbacks into Comebacks or check out my post, When Everything Changed for Mary.

Comparison Will Always Steal Our Joy

Social Media

Social media. You either love it, or you hate it. I have a love-hate relationship with social media. I need social media for the work I do. Without social media, I wouldn’t be able to promote the books I write, both my Christian books and my fantasy books. So I love it for that.

The hate part of my relationship is the comparison that comes with it. I see everybody else’s books and how well they are doing, or how many reviews they have. Or I see the wins other people have that I don’t have, and so on…You know how it goes.

Comparison, the Enemy of Contentment

Comparison is the enemy of contentment. In real time, I can be looking at one of my books on Amazon and be pleased because it picked up a few more reviews. I literally scroll down one more book and see a sponsored book that has way more reviews, and I lose any contentment I had with my new reviews.

I don’t know how contentment works for you, but it’s like a slippery eel for me. I grasp hold of it one minute, and then it slips away from me in the next.

Gratitude

One of the best ways I have found to help keep myself on track with comparison is to simply choose to be thankful. Thankfulness is the antidote to comparison. I have found that you can’t be thankful and comparing at the same time. As soon as we start comparing ourselves, we are no longer thankful.

The best way to stay content is to choose to be thankful, always.

Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.

I Thessalonians 5:18 NLT

The way this works best for me is to start my morning by writing down what I’m grateful for in my Faithfully Stepping Journal. This daily habit helps me to stay grateful each and every day. It helps me keep the comparison trap from taking over for the day.

The next time you’re struggling with comparison, choose something to be thankful for instead!

More Encouragement

For more encouragement, check out The Comparison Trap devotional by Sandra Stanley or read my post, Finding Freedom from Comparing Ourselves.

Kids’ Easter Basket Ideas

Easter baskets

Our Tradition with Easter Baskets

Easter is only a few weeks away, and that means Easter baskets! We have a tradition in our home that we keep every Easter. It’s actually a tradition passed on from my childhood, and that is candy trails. Every Easter, Matt and I prepare four different candy trails, one for each of our kids. Each child lines up behind their starting point and follows their trail, picking up the candy along the way, until they reach the end of their trail. At the end of their trail, they find their Easter basket.

We’ve had lots of creative hiding places over the years—the trunk of the car, outside under the deck, inside a cabinet, in the dishwasher, in a closet, down in the basement, in the dryer, etc. It’s such a fun tradition and one the kids look forward to every year.

Kids’ Daily Journals

Each year, most of us feel the pressure of finding special things for our children’s Easter basket besides just candy. One of the things we recommend are our Kids’ Daily Journals.

The Kids’ Daily Journal is a tool to help your child learn to pray, read, and apply the Bible even at a young age. The Kids’ Daily Journal is perfect for ages 5 to 12 for both non-readers and readers. 

Journal Features:

  • Section for daily prayer: your child will have a chance to write down something they’re thankful for, something they’re confessing, and what they’re praying for
  • Record daily Bible reading: your child will record what they read in the Bible
  • Daily application: you child will draw a picture of what they learned and/or write a few sentences about what they learned.
  • 6 months of journal entry pages
  • Large spacing for young writers
  • Creative drawing space for non-writers
  • Designed for parent-guided journaling for the non-reader or self-guided journaling for the reader.

If you’re looking for a little something special to put in your kids’ baskets this year, be sure to check out our Kids’ Daily Journals!

What else to put in?

What else could go really well with a kids’ journal? You could add any of the products below and help your child build their own morning time basket.

  • Bright colored pens
  • A new Bible
  • Highlighters
  • A book
  • Stickers
  • Book marks
  • Notecards
  • Post-it notes
  • Note cards

For More Encouragement

For more on this topic, check out my post, 12 Ways to Make Easter Special at Home. I wrote this post during Covid, but the ideas are still applicable.

You can also check out Matt’s book, Six Days to Sunday: Turn Setbacks into Comebacks.

When You Can’t Forgive Yourself

quote about forgiveness

It’s so hard to forgive ourselves.

I talked with a friend recently who was heartbroken about some things in her life. With tears in her eyes, she said, “I would have never thought I would have done this.” Matt and I listened as she poured her heart out; then we reminded her that God still loved her.

Matt asked her, “Have you confessed it to God and asked his forgiveness?” She nodded and then spoke these words, “But it’s so hard to forgive myself.”

We’ve been there; we’ve all blown it. We have all made mistakes and done things that we wish we wouldn’t have. Sometimes though, it seems impossible to come back from those mistakes.

Will God stop forgiving me?

A friend in our small group recently told us that he had a friend who had done something he didn’t believe God could possibly forgive him for. What do you do when you feel like you can’t come back from something? Is there any sin that’s too much for God to forgive?

David from the Psalms says, “But with you (God) is forgiveness…” (Psalm 130:4) We know God forgives, but does he forgive me? And will he forgive me this time? Will I wear out his forgiveness? What happens when God gives up on me and stops forgiving me?

How often does God forgive?

We get an idea of how Jesus felt about forgiveness when Peter asks him a question about forgiveness one day. Peter asks Jesus this question, “How often do we have to forgive people? About seven times?”

Peter thought he was being really generous in offering the number seven. Yet, Jesus responds with an answer that shocks Peter. Jesus says, “Not seven times. Seventy times seven.”

Is 490 the magic number then? No, Jesus was trying to get Peter to understand the point he was making. We are to forgive and forgive and then forgive some more. If Jesus wants us to forgive that often, how much more is he willing to forgive us?

God is still faithful.

I John 1:9 doesn’t change, no matter how many times we mess up and fall.


If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

I John 1:9

We have to choose to get back up again.

The tough part about falling is getting back up. We have to pick ourselves up off the ground, ask God’s forgiveness, tell him we were wrong, and then choose to move forward. It’s tempting to stay down, to wallow in the messiness of it all. True courage is to stand up, confess, ask God for forgiveness, and move forward.

The hardest part of all of that is to choose to accept God’s forgiveness. Once we’ve confessed it, it’s done. We don’t have to keep confessing or keep reliving it. It’s simply done. God removes that sin from us and thinks about it no longer.

He has removed our sins as far from us as the east is from the west. For he knows how weak we are; he remembers we are only dust.

Psalm 103: 12, 14

To move forward, we have to accept God’s forgiveness.

We have to choose to let it go. God’s forgiven it; we have to accept that forgiveness and move forward. If we don’t choose to accept his forgiveness, we won’t be able to move forward in life towards all that God has for us.

More Encouragement

For more on this topic, check out my post, What to do after Failure? A song to encourage your heart is Forgiven by Crowder.

Too Busy to Show Compassion

Do you ever find yourself too busy to show compassion? I do. Often. And then God reminds me what’s really important.

Our Day Off

Wednesdays are our day off. We changed our day off to Wednesday last year when our small group started meeting at church because we had grown too large to meet in our home. The nights were getting later and later, and Wednesday’s were a mess at home the next day. The kids were tired and cranky after a late night, and it just wasn’t working. So we moved our day off to Wednesday. Because we homeschool the kids and Matt and I both work from home, it worked out.

It’s been really good for us, a much-needed change. There are a few problems that come with a Wednesday day-off, though. Matt has a meeting with pastors in the area that meets on the first Wednesday of the month, and Macey’s doctor’s appointments for her Type 1 Diabetes are always on Wednesdays. So we have to work around those events. Normally, we can make it all work and still get a day off on Wednesday, even on those weeks.

A Recent Day Off

Recently, Matt hosted the pastors at our church for the monthly meeting. We left the house early so we could grab the food and coffee and get everything set up. We had a great meeting. After the meeting was done, we picked up everything, packed up and met the kids and my mother-in-law for lunch. When we finally got home, we were ready to crash. It was still afternoon, so we had some time to just relax and enjoy down time.

Unexpected Visitors

That is, until a knock came at our door. We opened the door and found our neighbor, Art, at the door. We talked to him for a while and eventually invited him inside to continue talking. An hour or two later, he left, and I trudged upstairs to my room to get a little bit of down time and read. I grabbed the book I was currently reading, snagged a blanket, and settled against the pillows on my bed, ready to read. Before I even cracked the spine, the kids came running upstairs.

“Miss Tara’s here!”

Tara is another neighbor of ours. I took a deep breath and released it before getting to my feet and making my way downstairs once again. Tara ended up staying for awhile. We talked and even played several rounds of Uno. We had a good time, but in the back of my mind was this thought: this is supposed to be “my time.”

My Indictment

I was feeling really good about myself, patting myself on the back for being so “neighborly,” when God knocked me off my pedestal this week. For my morning time, I was reading in the book of Galatians. I read these verses:

Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.  If you think you are too important to help someone, you are only fooling yourself. You are not that important.

Galatians 6:2,3 NLT

Wow. I don’t think there’s any way to get past these verses, except to take responsibility and own up to them. If we think we are too important, what we are doing is too important to stop and help someone, we are simply fooling ourselves. We’re simply just not that important.

Jude reminds us in verse 22 of his short book that it’s compassion that makes the difference.

And of some have compassion, making a difference:

Jude 22 KJV

What’s Really Important

Those words smote me. How many times have I considered myself “too busy” to talk to somebody, to help somebody? How many times have I considered what I am doing too important to stop and go minister to somebody?

God used these verses to remind me of what’s most important— and that’s people, not my work. Ministering to people, loving on people will always trump whatever project I am currently working on. Compassion will always trump whatever work we are doing.

So the next time a knock comes at the door, my goal is to welcome the knock with a smile and compassion in my heart, not dread, because I get a chance to minister to somebody.

For More Encouragement

We just released a new devotional and study guide on the subject of compassion that goes hand-in-hand with this topic.

Created for Compassion: Answering the Call to Make a Difference is a thirty-day devotional that focuses on making a difference in the lives of others through compassion. Each day has a story to read, verses to study, and questions for application that help push us towards compassion and making a difference in the lives of others.

The accompanying study guide, 40 Days Compassion Study Guide: Opening Doors that Make a Difference is a six-week study guide with accompanying videos and is great for a small group to work through.

The Faith to Move Forward

faith word art

Sometimes, it’s easy to get comfortable, to settle into how God is working in our lives. As soon as we do that, it’s inevitable that God will send something into our lives to shake us up. He will use that thing to develop and strengthen our faith and ultimately move us forward.

David’s Anointing

Samuel, the prophet, shows up one day to Jesse’s house. He skips over all of Jesse’s older sons and waits for David, the youngest of all of them. David leaves his sheep and comes to see Samuel. God tells Samuel to anoint David as the next king of Israel.

What’s interesting to note is that David does not actually become king for another fifteen years! That’s a long time to wait on God.

David’s New Job

It’s not long after David is anointed that the king sends for David to come to the palace. The king’s advisers have told him about David, that he is a talented musician. So Saul sends for David and asks him to come be his own personal musician.

Can you imagine David’s face or his father’s face when they get the summons? They were probably scared to death that the king had actually found out about David’s anointing. They probably thought that King Saul was going to kill David as soon as he got to the palace.

Amazingly enough, Jesse trusts God enough to send his youngest son to the king, even though he fears that Saul has already or will soon uncover the truth.

David’s Faith

Can you imagine the fear David must have felt when he arrived at the palace? If anybody learned his secret or if the king found out, he would immediately be killed. In spite of all this, David stays at the palace and serves Saul. He plays music for him when he’s distressed, he fights his battles for him, and leads his soldiers.

Standing Firm in Our Faith

Sometimes, God leads us to do things that don’t make sense, that make us fearful. When it comes to times like this, we can either trust God and move forward or let our fear keep us from accomplishing whatever it is God wants us to do.

I was reading in the book of Isaiah this week. God gives a message to his people through Isaiah the prophet. This is what he says:

Unless your faith is firm, I cannot make you stand firm.

Isaiah 7:9

When God’s ready to move, we have to be ready as well. We have to develop and strengthen our faith, so that when the time comes, God can help us stand firm in our faith.

More Encouragement

For more encouragement, check out my post Developing a Faith that’s Strong Enough to Stand On or check out Lysa TerKeurst’s book, What Happens When Women Say Yes to God and Walk in Faith.

Memories are Made from Moments

I was reminded yesterday that it’s the moments that make up our memories. Yesterday, we took a field trip to a science factory for school. As a part of the day, we also stopped at a park because the weather was so nice. I had the kids do a writing assignment while we were there. While I was doing the assignment with the kids, Matt snapped a picture and sent me a text saying, “This right here is why we do what we do.” He also sent me some thoughts, some of what I’m sharing in this email. 

So often, we get so busy. Life comes flying at us from all directions. I find myself with a to-do list every day that’s daunting, and I find myself constantly saying to my kids, “I’m busy right now; I can’t do that right now. We can do that later, another day.” I tell myself it will be better after I finish this project or this deadline, but that’s not necessarily true. Because after that deadline, there will be another one and another one.

Yet, for all my busyness, life doesn’t slow down. My kids aren’t getting any younger; I’m not getting any younger. If we’re not careful, life will pass us by in the blink of an eye. We can either let it pass us by, or we can choose to grab ahold of it, force it to slow down for us.

How do you slow time?

For me, slowing down time is accomplished by simply spending time with the people I love and creating memories with them. We measure life in moments. Those moments add up to be memories, and we treasure those memories. Those moments create the memories we will tell for decades to come. If we miss those moments, we can never get them back. 

How do you create memories?

How do we create those moments so we can be assured of memories later on? This is something I constantly struggle with. Matt is much better at it than I am; this is a constant struggle for me because my mind is always busy. Left to my own choosing, I will always choose to work. So I have to remind myself of these principles:

  1. Be present. When it’s time to do something with those you love, choose to simply be present. For me with my kids, I have to choose to do the activity with them, paint the picture, throw the football, chase them through the field, laugh with them, etc. 
  2. Create moments. There won’t ever be any special moments that will turn into memories if we don’t intentionally schedule time into our calendar. Plan for special days—trips to the park, day trips to special places, picnics, read-alouds, craft and art projects, cook-outs with friends, special dinners, coffee dates, etc.
  3. Take pictures. Pictures will be my memory of this day when I forget. Pictures will remind me that this day was special and worth it. 

How do you make it work?

Maybe you, like me, struggle with this concept. Maybe you find it hard to take a break, to cut loose when there is so much to do. I hear you. Here’s a quick assignment. Answer these two questions:

What are the things I can do anytime?

What are the things I can only do in this time? 

If we’re honest with ourselves, answering those two questions will remind us of what’s important right now. If you’re in the midst of the child-rearing years, remind yourself of this principle:

The days are long, but the years are short.

Choose to be Intentional

Too soon, our kids will be gone from our homes, moving on with their lives. We have to choose to be intentional about our time with them. This applies to anybody in any life stage. Maybe you don’t have kids, but this still applies to your friendships and relationships. We only get one shot at this life; let’s make it count.

Remember this: The moments we spend today will be memories we reminisce or missteps we will forever regret.

More Encouragement

A great book on this topic is Hands-Free Mama by Rachel Macy Stafford. I really felt convicted reading this book but also inspired and encouraged. You can also check out my post My Reminder from a Heart in the Sand.

3 Ways to Turn Discouragement into Hope

We all go through times of discouragement. It can happen any time, but one of the times people get most discouraged is in the months of January and February. The sun isn’t out as much; it’s generally colder, depending on where you live. Especially for those of us in the North, it’s sort of a depressing time of year.

What do you do to combat that discouragement? How do you find hope? What do you when you feel defeated? Matt and I were having a discussion about this topic this week. The next few days in my morning time, God brought these verses and thoughts to mind that can help turn our discouragement into hope.

1. Believe.

My word for this year is believe. It sounds cliche or simple, but there is nothing cliche about believing, about taking God at his word. When life feels like it’s falling apart, and you don’t know what to do, turn to God. Choose once again to believe, to have faith that he can make good come from the bad and the ugly. Trust him to bring you through this time. Understand that he’s still at work.

You can read my full post about my word for the year, about believing, HERE.

2. Be Still.

One of the most well-known verses in the Bible is from Psalm 46:10, “Be still, and know that I am God!” There’s something about that verse, about those words. It brings a sense of peace and calm to our hearts, even in the midst of chaos and confusion.

When the Israelites stood on the opposite side of the Red Sea after crossing all night on dry ground, they turned back to see the Egyptian army coming after them in full force. Chariots riding hard, generals shouting commands, soldiers in gleaming armor, piercing weapons…it made quite a picture, a terrifying one. Yet, Moses tells the people to stand and watch.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t think I would have been able to stand and watch. I would have turned and ran in fear. But Moses tells them to stand still; see his words from Exodus 14.

But Moses told the people, “Don’t be afraid. Just stand still and watch the Lord rescue you today. The Egyptians you see today will never be seen again.”

Exodus 14:13

Those were powerful words coming from their leader. The Israelites obey; they stand still and watch. They watch as God releases the hold on the walls of water on either side of the Egyptian army, and those waters crash down, drowning the entire army. I can’t imagine the shock and silence that followed in those first few moments before they erupted in cheers and praise to God for saving them.

It seems so counterintuitive when you’re in danger, in a trial, in trouble, to be still. Yet, that’s what God wants from us sometimes. Sometimes, when we’ve done all we can do, we have to be silent and wait and watch God work.

3. Be Thankful.

The third thing to do is to find something to be thankful for. Sometimes, we have to just look at our day and find something to be thankful for. Then find something else. Maybe it’s simply to look at the sunrise and be thankful for another day. Maybe it’s to look at those closest to you and be thankful that you don’t have to go through life alone. Whether it’s one thing, or ten, choose to find something to be thankful for.

Jon Gordon says this, “It’s actually physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time.”

The Psalmist wrote this in Psalm 50:

Make thankfulness your sacrifice to God, and keep the vows you made to the Most High.

Psalm 50:14

But giving thanks is a sacrifice that truly honors me.

Psalm 50:23

There’s something that happens when we choose to be thankful. Our minds are changed when we choose to be thankful, choose to find something to be grateful for. Why? Because at least for that little bit, our mind focuses on something that brings us joy. We focus on something that makes us content, and that draws our attention away from our problems. Gratitude has a way of lightening our load. It often helps us to remember that we don’t really have it that bad; there are others who have it so much worse.

If you find yourself struggling with discouragement today, with being hurt, feeling like God’s not pleased with you, then try one or all three of these things this week and see if it doesn’t turn your discouragement into hope.

More Encouragement

For more encouragement on this topic, check out my book, The Hidden Pain: When You Fear God is No Longer Blessing Your Life or check out my post, The Key to Unlocking Hope.